Earlier, I wrote about being busy and how it is the new happy. I believe being busy because you are working toward something will make you happy. I think that type of stress is healthy. I welcome that type of stress. I thrive on it.
Then we have the type of stress that does not make us happy. The type that is completely unnecessary. The type that has give me two ulcers this week. This I do not welcome.
I think there comes a point where we have to stop and re-evaluate what is happening in our lives. Determine what is controllable, what is working for us and what is not helping the situation.
Stress has many physical symptoms. I know no one wants to feel awful due to their stress level. Here are some things to be on the lookout for. See if your stress is impacting your physical,mental or emotional health.
Symptoms of stress:
- Backaches, neck aches
- Weight loss/gain
The list goes on and on. There are well over 50 physical signs your stress level is too high.
This past week a lot of unwelcome stress has come my way. I wanted to take a minute to talk about ways to avoid some stress, how to re-evaluate and how I’m trying to cope with it.
- Do not overcommit
- Avoid those who stress you out (This one is huge. I’ve learned a lot of my stress comes from my friends. Whether it is dealing with their personal issues, negativity, whatever the issue there is. There’s a huge difference between being there for someone and letting someone bring you down.)
- Learn some relaxation techniques.
- Change your perspective.
- Positive thinking.
- Be proactive instead of reactive.
- Express your feelings.
- Do not let perfectionism take over.
- Do not stress about the little things. (Ask yourself will this matter in a year?)
- Get organized.
- Learn to forgive.
- What does my dream life look like?
- What do you want?
- What is making you unhappy?
- Do you hate your job?
- Am I wasting my time?
- Am I sad?
- What make me impatient?
- What do I want to accomplish?
- Why am I re-evaluating now?
- Am I ready to step outside my comfort zone?
Ask yourself these things all the time. Never stop questioning. Work toward your goals. Set a goal to ask yourself these questions monthly, every six months, yearly, whatever works best for you. You should never stop evaluation your progress. Life is too short to waste it not doing what you love or working toward that dream life.
I have learned that by putting my stressors in Christ’s hands I am much better off. By praying about decisions, relationships, etc. I am utilizing His love and understanding of me personally. There are so many scriptures that discuss stress. One of my personal favorites is from 1 Nephi 11:17.
How amazing is the faith Nephi had? I know Christ loves me and I know I do not know everything. This is so reassuring. I feel a thousand times better knowing that I can put my problems in His hands and everything will be okay. I could write a novel about how many scriptures are in the Bible and the Book of Mormon that talk about stress and letting God handle it. The amount of times stress is addressed is incredibly reassuring that our Heavenly Father loves us and only wants what is best for us.
Along with relaxation techniques I find scriptures and re-evaluation incredibly helpful. Share with me how you avoid or handle unwanted stress in your life.